A New Chapter for Moms: Living Life Outside of Anxiety and Perfectionism

Raising kids is hard! But, it can be even harder when you’re struggling with anxiety and the perfectionism that comes with it. Many moms put their needs on the back burner in favor of taking care of everyone else.
You may be so worried about what other people think of you, that you forget to live your own life. Remember, as a mother you are so much more than only a caretaker. You’re a strong and empowered woman who can achieve anything you set your mind to. So, if you’re a mom struggling with anxiety and perfectionism, know that you’re not alone. There is help out there.
Perfectionism
It can be easy to put a lot of pressure on yourself to be perfect as a mom. You want to be the best mom that you can be. And you don’t want to let your kids down. But this pressure can lead to overwhelming feelings of never being good enough. Or, always feeling like you’re falling short.
Worrying about being perfect all the time can lead to anxiety. You might find yourself always worrying about the future or what could go wrong. And when you’re always thinking about the future, it’s hard to enjoy the present and the joy that comes along with it.
You’re Doing the Best You Can.
Even though it may not feel like it, you’re doing the best that you can. As a human, even a mom, you’re going to make mistakes. That’s okay!
Many of us do not have an entire “village” behind us to help. You may not have family living with you or within a helping distance. So, it often falls on you to do it all. And that’s a lot of pressure! One person is not designed to take on that much. So, it’s okay if you need to ask for help or take some time for yourself.
The Issue of Anxiety

On top of the pressure of being perfect, anxiety can also be a big issue for moms. You might have anxieties about your kids, your spouse, your job, the house, and everything else between. It can be hard to stop and take a minute to breathe.
Anxiety is common for many mothers. But, know there are ways to overcome your anxiety.
Taking Time to Think About You
With bearing all the pressure and responsibilities of motherhood, it’s vital to take some time out for yourself. Whether that means taking a break to read your favorite book, going for a walk, or taking a yoga class. Do something that’s just for you. This way you can fulfill your wants, needs, and passions.
If you’re having trouble carving out time for yourself, remember that helping yourself helps you to be a happier and healthier mom for your children.
Time to Start a New Chapter
It’s time to start writing a new chapter of your life. One that gives you the space to take steps to overcome your anxiety and perfectionism. This chapter is one where you focus on taking care of yourself and living your life. You don’t exist just to take care of others. It’s time to start living your life for you.
Schedule Some Time for Self-Care
One of the best things that you can do for yourself takes time for self-care. This looks different for every person. It doesn’t have to be expensive or time-consuming. It can be simple. As long as you feel refreshed, it counts. Some self-care ideas include:
- Exercising
- Journaling
- Spending time outside
- Having a spa day (which can just be a face mask and a bath)
- Getting a massage
- Yoga
- Meditation
Remember, this is something to help you relax and rejuvenate. It’s not something else to add to your never-ending to-do list.
Get Away for a Day

Much like how it’s important to schedule self-care into your week, it’s also important to get away for a day or two. It can be hard to leave your kids. But it’s so important to have time for yourself. Taking time to get away and recharge gives you the chance to come back refreshed. This can relieve some of the anxiety and stress that you’re feeling. Leaving your kids with a happier mom.
You’re Not Alone
Feeling like you’re the only one struggling with anxiety and perfectionism can make it feel even harder. But you’re not alone. Many moms are navigating these same issues. You don’t have to do it alone.
Finding a support group to talk with moms navigating through the same situations can be helpful. Therapists are also a great source of source and empowerment. Our therapists in California can help you navigate your new chapter in life. All while overcoming your anxiety and perfectionism.
Anxiety Treatment Can Help
As a mom, you might feel like this is your burden to bear. But you don’t have to do it alone. Talking to a therapist can help you work through your anxiety and perfectionism. Our therapists at Moxie Family Therapy can help you develop tools to deal with anxiety and stress. As well as work on your perfectionism. You deserve to be happy and to live a life that lights you up.
Begin Online Therapy for Anxiety in Orange County, CA
At Moxie Family Therapy in California, our therapists are specialized in treating anxiety. We understand how anxiety can impact every area of your life. Our therapists will be there to support and guide you, but you will always be the driver. Because who knows you better than you do? To start your therapy journey, please follow these simple steps:
- Contact Moxie Family Therapy
- Find a therapist at our practice that’s the right fit for you
- Start overcoming perfectionism and better managing your anxiety
Other Services Offered at Moxie Family Therapy
Online anxiety therapy isn’t the only service we offer. Our Orange County, CA-based practice is also happy to offer support for women, children, teens, young adults, and couples with a variety of services in person and online. We also offer mental health services including therapy for trauma, clinical supervision, art therapy, counseling for adoption, therapy for therapists, and play therapy. Please learn more about us by visiting our blog or FAQ page today!